Where’s the desert oasis? Isn’t it always here ? Isn’t that the soul’s journey? To experience the oasis at all times ? The gift in the present. The power in the now. I’m trying. Conflicting desires don’t make it easy. Wanting to be one place while being in another. Wanting to be doing something while doing another. About 7 days ago I wrote that I was ready for spring break. I too needed a break. Spring break is a different sort of break. I’m now ready for school to resume for my kids.

This week I’m being stretched, some more. It’s a work in progress. I know it to be true, that is, about being satiated in the moment. Being ok with what is. With spring break we’ve been staying indoors and I’m learning how to negotiate a bit of work, being with my kids and managing family and couple life. I’m definitely being stretched. Stretched to see my limits, my resistance, my reluctance, my yearnings, my ambivalence, my excitement, my fatigue, my fear, my disbelief, my gratitude, my life. Another opportunity to learn, gain insight into what works for my kids ( individually and as siblings ), myself and our needs as a family. Then , adjust, tweak, change and know for next time. Know myself, know my kids , know our needs and our values. Insight gained always in hindsight. And lessons learned always by taking the steps and trusting each one. Who ever said it was simple?

So I’m glad to be working on creating a village both for myself and on my podcast. A village to raise healthy thriving children and support adults who thrive too.
It’s no coincidence I’m building one. Don’t we create, teach, build most what we most need ourselves?

I’m gearing up to welcome a much respected and loved guest for my podcast on Wednesday March 14 th, visionary child developmental psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld , best-selling author of Hold on to Your Kids : Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers.  We are in for a treat and much wisdom that will inspire our parenting and give us insight into understanding our children. Join us live and bring your questions to the show. 11 am PST/2 pm EST. Listen live or download the archived show .

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Lucy, my beloved female four legged family member

I thought I would be scrambling for plans and trying to find ways to make spring break ‘fun’ for one of my guys who is off for 10 days !! Oh me oh my. And actually despite my resistance to this break since January, because I want to keep working, my mind and body are deeply craving this break.

Isn’t that how life can work ? What we think we need or want is not actually what is best for us? And how do we know that ? Because what we think we want or need doesn’t materialize and what WAS happening doesn’t feel so good. Yesterday I was in bed resting a migraine from pushing it too hard with work and just in general. When I operate strictly, or in a big part from my WILL, must forge on, be productive, keep momentum going with my work ( which doesn’t feel like work but is and is necessary and I love it ), my body speaks up. It’s important and crucial to come up for air. Make space. Pause. Feel into what’s being created, what’s working and what’s not and to just simply be and not be doing. And also listen to the wisdom of the guests on my podcast, my own mother (thanks mum) and people close to me who talk about rest as medicine and really listen to my own medicine. Rest. Space. Listening inwardly. Play. Community. And so on and so forth.

And so this will be the time for just that.
I did make sure to block off some time during the break to ‘work’ and mostly I will trust the letting go and the not ‘doing’.

So when is spring break starting already ?

Oh and I should say I’m about to head into a loosely structured 10 days with my two boys ( one is in daycare and will go on a few of these days). Always an adventure. I have a village on hand, well some of one anyway, and some ideas as we enter into spring break mode. DEEP BREATH!

Here we go …

Cheers everyone. What are your plans for spring break? If it is spring break for you ?
And isn’t it all relative?

Moment to moment awareness. Perspective.
And deep breath to that.

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